Assumptions
1. Everything you know and everything everyone knows is only a model in our heads of how things are.
2. We are co-creating an unknown together; no one is in control of what happens.
3. Not knowing is a necessary and creative state.
4. What we each think and do matters to the whole world.
5. No one is wrong, nothing is wrong, no one is to blame for anything.
6. We can trust ourselves and what we most deeply want.
7. Everyone wants closeness with others and autonomy, and these are compatible.
8. Being fundamentally happy is a worthwhile and attainable goal.
Commitments
1. I commit to seeing absolutely everything that happens as part of a learning process.
2. I commit to speaking self-responsibly, and speaking only out of and about my personal experience.
3. I commit to listening non-judgmentally to myself and everyone else.
4. I commit to giving no praise, blame, or apologies, and searching for another response (appreciating and acknowledging).
5. I commit to welcoming differences and conflict as part of the process.
6. I commit that, when someone expresses a concern to me, rather than being defensive, I choose to be curious about what they are thinking and feeling and needing, and curious about how to create a win-win.
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